5 Signs You Are A People Pleaser

God has been teaching me a ton about people pleasing the last few months. He's been healing me of it. Getting healed is actually a very painful process but it's so awesome at the end!
This is what I have learned and I hope it helps someone.
1. You are in denial. Most people who are people pleasers are in denial. They do not think they have this problem. God had to give me the same book 3 times before I realized it was to help me.
2. You are never satisfied with your marriage. People pleasing is a form of lust. It's a need for someone else to love you besides God. Someone else to be proud of you, need you, cheer you on etc... These are all things that God can provide and He can use other people to encourage you but a people pleaser needs to find them in unhealthy ways.
3. You update your Facebook status constantly with religious things and great things about yourself. People pleasing shows up big time on Facebook. Everytime a people pleaser get a "like" they have a warm fuzzy feeling that they are loved. This can be okay if kept in balance but can easily become an addiction to write more.
4. You share about what you are doing that is religious - all the time. A lot of People Pleasing Christians fill their lives with Religious Pride and not God. There is a big difference. Religion begs us to write things on Facebook and share things with others for praise and approval and a pat on the back. About 4 years ago, God asked me to stop posting daily updates on Facebook. My friends were actually confused when I stopped and I honestly didn't even know why I did it, I just knew I should. People Pleasers can easily use this to steal glory from God. The people pleaser needs to write every single thing that God is doing on Facebook or ell everyone they know. They may share every single person who has been saved or every spiritual thing they did in the last month by speaking it or writing. They find significance and love in sharing that they are doing things for God to make people like them more, however God is the one who did the saving, healing etc and they are just a vessel. Sometimes they even get confused and feel that they have the gift of teaching, (some may actually have it, some may not.) This his a huge block from great intimacy with God. Some things God is doing are private between the person and God. It is okay to say God did this, God did that, I believe God loves that. He wants us to give Him credit. We can look at the root of why we are sharing things, to help the person have faith for themselves or to encourage them or to make them like us more.
5. You turn to porn or romantic fanticies. People pleasing usually pops up when someone feels unloved. They either go to God or something else at this time. Men tend to go to porn, women romantic fanticies, but they are both fake love.
If you struggle with porn or you dream of going on dates with people other than your spouse, you might be a people pleaser.
There are two types of people pleasers, the one that needs attention from everyone and the one who doesn't want attention from anyone. The one who does not need attention usually wants lots of attention from their immediate family only. They had a lot of negative attention as a child and they hide in hopes that negative attention won't come their way, however they crave lots of special attention from their family, usually in unhealthy ways.
If you think you struggle with people pleasing, it can keep you from full freedom in Christ.
Please seek counseling in this area. Grab a good book like Joyce Meyer's Approval Addiction: Overcoming Your Need to Please Everyone or Jennifer Dukes Lee's Love Idol: Letting Go of Your Need for Approval-and Seeing Yourself through God's Eyes.